Brought To you By Ed Ferrigan, M.A., CPCC, SEP
The environment that Ed provides is very safe & his ability to facilitate this process is profound. It creates a beautiful sense of community for all the people who attend. I have participated in many healing & growth experiences & I would highly recommend this beautiful process with Ed.
Ed helped me dissolve any discomfort and distrust of people...now able to immediately recognize repetitive and destructive behaviors and eliminate them. It was truly amazing how fast his process worked.
I would definitely recommend Ed's process. He has such knowledge how to help people find their strengths and then help others be successful in so many ways. He is very in tune with where people are at and how to help them reach their full potential!
Your goal is to listen without reacting. As soon as you openly react, you’ve given up your power. The How To Stop Fighting And Arguing Program will not only show you why you react and teach you how to stop, it will also guide you to being a better decision maker in life.
What Success Is
Before you take action on anything it's a good idea to know what you want. In this section, Ed will show you the fastest way possible to identify and dissolve blind-spots so you are no longer in the dark.
Commitment
What is commitment? In this section Ed will show you how the unconscious can influence you away from commitment so you finally get back control of your destination. Goal: Manifest your heart desires.
Beliefs To Adopt
One shortcut to success is to know the beliefs that successful people have. In this section, you'll learn essential beliefs reinforce if you already aspire to them, or to adopt if you need adjustment.
Core Practices
There are several core skills you will need to learn to make this program work for you. Once you gain mastery, you'll see the genius behind them. With practice arguments will be a thing of the past.
Together, these modules will guide you to success. It's kinda like having a communication "playbook" at your fingertips. Use these tools to self navigate and practice regularly so you gain competency. Give yourself time to gain mastery. You can do this...
What to do when your partner lashes out and maybe even flies into a rage
The #1 way to end the blame game
What to say when their body language doesn’t match their words without triggering them
What to do when you know whatever you say won’t matter
How to hear both sides without the ego getting in the way
How To Get Your Partner To Talk When They Normally Wont
What essential body language needs to be communicated so the other person stay's engaged and open
Key words and phrases that activate curiosity and disarm your partners autopilot reaction to shut down
3 Ways to get your partner to open up and talk3 Ways to get your partner to open up and talk
What you want to do in the first 15 seconds when they divert the topic
How To Regroup And Maintain Trust
5 Ways to rekindle the passion so they want to take time for you
How to feel safe again to say what needs to be said and feel heard
How to know if you should trust them again
How to not take it personally when they get mad
And much more...
How to get them to beg you for your opinion
How to not be “attached” to them valuing your opinion and how it causes them to want your point of view
Key secrets to framing your conversation so you feel heard and valued
How to pick the right time to talk so you feel heard
How To Interrupt Your Knee Jerk Reaction And Not Feed It
Learn the #1 technique that will vaporize arguments in under a minute
What to do to break any “knee jerk reactions” so you don’t get “hooked”
The body signals to pay attention to before you say anything
“The Watchtower Practice” - a simple daily practice that guarantees you’ll catch yourself before you say something you’ll regret
Core Couples Communication Practices
Discover ways to share without triggering knee jerk responses that spiral out
What to look for in yourself that is contributing to the negative outcome you never thought to consider
The “4-Step awareness process” that stops arguments dead in their tracks
How to effectively explore the meaning they have on something you disagree with
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Integrate each video with a weekly prep email describing the situation and how to apply what will be in the next video. It tees up the next lesson in a way you are eager to watch, practice the lesson, and know how to apply it. Each week you’ll get a specifically designed email to open the lesson, offer insights, and help you frame up how to think about the video as you work your way through it. It will keep you motivated and offer you timely insights. ($150 Value)
Along with the video and emails you will have a PDF workbook to follow each exercise so you have recorded notes of what is working and what you need help on. (no charge)
There is a feedback button on every video-lesson page that keeps me informed and a pulse on what is the program needs further explanation. I regularly monitor this feedback and when needed will offer weekly on-line sessions to clarify concepts, exercises, or how to handle specific situations. (no charge)
For the time being I am offering lifetime updates to the How To Stop Fighting And Arguing System. Neuroscience, trauma research, attachment theory, other up-and-coming psychological models and my own insights continue to refine my knowledge of the principles and I want to continue to share them with you. It is one of my life goals to create a program that has the potential to change the world. The How To Stop Fighting And Arguing System is the foundation of that. ($300 a year value)
One of the biggest challenges with integrating any new information is how our brains are wired to like patterns. Until you experience something, you will not know if your pattern is promoting learning or resisting learning. What we know for sure in brain science is our brains can change but you must give it a reason. Learning from others is another way to learn the HTSFA concepts faster. I encourage you to utilize this private group and save yourself a lot of time and money. ($300 a year value)
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It’s priceless to have the blueprint to what successful couples do to maintain and grow on-going harmony. Without harmony it feels like you chip away at love and we all know how that ends.
By practicing these 10 Guidelines, you’ll quickly see how your unconscious habituated patterns are constantly influencing you. These guidelines are like guardrails to happy harmonious living. Triggers will become a thing of the past.
Here is what’s possible with this Bonus:
• After you get clear on “show stopper” behaviors other behaviors will seem trivial and not derail your intimacy.
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• Our brains are very malleable. As you get better at focusing on the positive you’ll create the neurocircuitry that keeps on giving back throughout your lifetime.
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When we feel heard, it softens whatever conflict is triggering us. This Bonus will give you the latest communication insights that research shows us.
Practicing what is in this bonus will reduce stress and actually excite you because you’ll have the answers to what most couples struggle with - feeling heard!
In the Deeper Conversations Bonus, you’ll soon learn that conflict is only as bad as we make it. You’ll learn about 7 questions that cut through the chase of troubleshooting ANY conversation that goes south. Ask yourself these key questions and watch how fast you go deeper faster with your beloved. Priceless.
The Deeper Conversations Bonus shares the importance of reflection and how simple practices takes any conversation deeper. It also teaches you why listening is so critical and which filters to stop using. (Hint: we all learn "hard to see" listening filters as we grow up watching those around us.)
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• Learn the difference between listening to “Fix” versus listening to understand what the underlying need or want is that is trying to be conveyed.
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Right now, if you are lucky, you are habitually sustaining or building trust 10% of the time.
Lots of couples have habits they have never questioned because it never occurred to them.
Even when I have my first session with people they will brag how great their childhood was. Within about 20 minutes asking deeper questions, it’s obvious their idea of a healthy childhood and the ones I see that cause success are very far apart.
How would your relationship change if you knew exactly what patterns-habits are no longer serving you and what to replace them with?
With access to this bonus training, you will be in the drivers seat of your destiny.
You’ll have one of the easiest and fastest ways to make quick changes that eliminate months or years of therapy and immediately start to build long term bonding.
You’ll also find in this bonus:
• How to nail down each others value and beliefs so you stop clashing and don’t understand why. (Hint: if you figure this out before you get married, you’ll stop blaming “love” for the relationship demise)
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• Interrupt knee jerk reactions. Throughout this entire program, I will encourage you to dismantle your early life memories that are at the root of unnecessary conflict. This Bonus will take it another step and show you a new definition of integrity. In the future, you will immediately put the stop on knee jerk responses that most often can take weeks or even months to repair.
• See responsibility as a celebration. The Trust Trainer bonus will reinforce the whole idea that each of us is responsible for our perceptions, interpretations, assumptions, and responses to any reaction we have. Once we get this its far easier to pause, reflect and make good choices moving forward that put you back in charge rather than the unconscious pattern that used to derail your progress.
• See why curiosity is your best friend and can dismantle even the most nerve wracking reactions.
• Get the language to use that enhances trust and demonstrates your commitment to giving each other the benefit of the doubt rather than racing to the victim and making them the enemy.
• Learn the one phrase that disarms your partners reaction. With this one phrase you’ll always feel good you are doing your part to maintain intimacy and closeness.
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In this Bonus you are going to hear what most people never say out loud – and should.
Learn to identify and speak to what usually passes under the radar for couples and you will liberate yourself.
This bonus will show you how to get to an entirely different level of differentiation and consciousness. When we differentiate well in life we get a better bead on who to hang with and what direction to go.
This ebook is loaded with information that could take years to sort out in therapy. Learn the practices in this guide and soar in your current or next relationship.
Here are just a few gems you will learn about:
• How we play into each other that erodes intimacy and how to change that dynamic permanently.
• Gain access to the 3 step process for upending any habit that you know keeps sabotaging your relationships.
• How to articulate your truth and feel great about it no matter the response.
• How speaking your truth causes the other person to give you important feedback to guide your next decision.
• The importance of processing emotions and changing beliefs so you stop projecting the past into your present derailing any chance of success.
• And much much more…