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Relationships Made Easier

Repair Your Current Relationship Then Have Love That Stays Healthy And Vibrant

Are you currently facing challenges in your relationship and yearn to restore the harmony you once had? We understand how frustrating it can be when the person you believed was your soulmate starts to drift away. The initial sense of security and connection seems to be fading, and you're left wondering if you made the wrong choice or if your partner has been dishonest. Walls are slowly being erected, and you find yourself retreating into independence rather than sharing your life with them.

As a seasoned relationship coach with over 25 years of experience, I've witnessed this cycle unfold for countless couples, including my own journey. But here's the good news—I've discovered a way to break free from this pattern, and I'm excited to share it with you.

Before we delve into the solution, let's ensure we're on the same page. The dynamics you're experiencing are not new; they have existed since time immemorial. What's different now is that science can shed light on why these patterns occur and how to repair them.

All Relationships Must Go Through This Phase

You see, these patterns originated from your earliest connections during pregnancy and after birth. Your brain is wired for survival, constantly seeking ways to navigate your environment to ensure your well-being. In your formative years, you developed patterns of responding to the fulfillment (or lack thereof) of your needs, desires for competency, feelings of safety, and your sense of importance and belonging. Over time, these patterns become ingrained, shaping your behavior without conscious awareness.

Now, the million-dollar question for all couples is: How can we untangle these fear-based patterns that are now playing out? Having spent the past 25 years tirelessly unraveling this mystery in my own relationships and working with numerous couples and individuals, I have found the answers.

My journey began in the mid-90s when I first acknowledged that I had a problem and sought guidance. My initial mentors, Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks, authors of Conscious Loving, introduced me to a different way of being in a relationship. Their training laid a good foundation but I, however, knew there was more to uncover.

That's when I encountered Somatic Experiencing (SE), a trauma healing process that took my understanding to the next level. SE taught me that developmental trauma can cause us to unconsciously recreate past events later in life. Our brain attempts to fix what happened by attracting similar situations, (perceptions are shaped by traumatic events until the trauma is resolved) but it remains trapped in the loop of a young child's memory.

Breaking free from this cycle requires identifying when it's happening and discovering how to interrupt it. Albert Einstein once said, "We cannot solve a problem with the same thinking we used when we created them." This holds true for developmental trauma as well.

Motivated by my own quest for more answers, I delved into neuroscience, attachment theory, developmental trauma, and the wisdom shared by relationship "gurus." In 2014, inspired by my research, I began creating video lessons to help couples resolve patterns and issues. This endeavor evolved into a comprehensive course called Getting Relationship Right.

Today, I'm thrilled to introduce you to my latest creation and the next generation of relationship help. A modern, science based, approach to healing any past patterns in your relationships and embodying new relationship patterns that will help you to thrive for the rest of your life. It's called: Relationships Made Easier

A Science Based Proven Solution

Welcome to Relationships Made Easier, a cutting-edge course designed for couples who are committed to resolving challenges that arise in their relationship so they keep intimacy in tact. This comprehensive program offers precise lessons on how to navigate any issue you may encounter.

Relationships Made Easier equips you and your partner with the tools to identify the underlying unconscious issues behind your current situation and troubleshoot any relationship scenario you find yourself in. By resolving your situation at the unconscious root level you permanently change the dynamic so it no longer haunts you and threatens to destroy the love you have.

By enrolling in Relationships Made Easier, you can finally put an end to:

  • The walls that emerge after repeated trust breaches

  • The cycle of recurring arguments

  • Feelings of loneliness and helplessness when your voice goes unheard

  • Anger and frustration stemming from unmet needs

  • The tendency to shut down or withdraw when you desire open communication

  • Ignoring problems only for them to resurface later in a more detrimental way

  • One of the standout features of Relationships Made Easier is its emphasis on empowering couples to do their own work. While having a skilled facilitator can undoubtedly expedite the process, this course is designed to provide you with the knowledge and resources needed to make significant progress before seeking external assistance. In the worst-case scenario, even if you do eventually seek help, you'll be leaps and bounds ahead thanks to the foundation you've built through this program.

    The beauty of learning this for yourself is you won’t have to drum up what happened in the past like a typical therapy session. Instead, you deal with what is happening in the moment when learning is optimal.

    You may find it hard to believe some of the things I'm about to describe. I personally reached rock bottom before I mustered the courage to trust the process myself. Remember the expression, "What we resist persists." This principle has guided me countless times over the years. Instead of resisting or avoiding, I choose to approach things with curiosity, which gradually makes conflict dynamics clearer and easier to understand. Now, I genuinely look forward to whatever comes my way because I know it's just one less obstacle standing between me and intimacy and joy. If you can let go and trust, you'll reach that point too, and it won't take long for you to see what I mean.

    Throughout the program, you'll encounter various practice exercises. Your brain learns faster when you actually practice. As you engage with them, you'll gain a clearer understanding of how to see and dismantle the unconscious patterns that threaten your intimacy. Soon enough, these patterns will become unmistakable, and you'll have a solid strategy to put an end to them. With time, those patterns will fade away, making intimacy and love the new normal in your life. Arguments, fights, distance, and walls will become relics of the past.

    What's In The Relationships Made Easier Program?

    Each model has multiple lessons. The lessons walk you through the new strategy for each critical area of your relationship step-by-step. It will feel like I’m there in the room with you looking over your shoulder.

    Module 1: Relationship Fundamentals

    Welcome to the enlightening module on Relationship Fundamentals. Relationships play a crucial role in our lives, shaping our happiness, growth, and overall well-being. In this module, we will explore the foundational principles of healthy relationships, providing you with valuable insights and empowering perspectives to redefine your understanding of how relationships work.


    Throughout this module, you will embark on a journey of self-discovery and transformation. You will critically examine your current beliefs and mindsets about relationships, and gain the knowledge and awareness needed to make conscious choices about their future direction.


    By delving deep into the core principles of relationship dynamics, you will develop a new lens through which to navigate and understand your connections with others. Rather than remaining stuck in frustration or repetitive patterns, you will cultivate a fresh perspective that honors both your own needs and desires, as well as the wants and needs of your partner or others involved.


    This module will empower you to transcend the limitations of victimhood and blame. You will learn to interrupt the automatic assumptions and inferences that can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, replacing them with curiosity and open-mindedness. By asking deeper questions and seeking new information, you will dismantle old patterns and pave the way for healthier, more fulfilling relationships.


    Through engaging lessons, thought-provoking exercises, and real-life examples, you will gain the tools and insights necessary to create harmonious connections based on compassion, empathy, and mutual understanding. You will discover how to honor your own boundaries and desires while fostering an environment of respect and consideration for others.


    Whether you are seeking to enhance your romantic relationships, improve your communication with family members, or cultivate meaningful connections in any area of your life, this module will equip you with the knowledge and skills to navigate relationships with authenticity, grace, and growth.


    Get ready to embark on a transformative journey as you challenge existing beliefs, expand your perspectives, and embrace the fundamental principles that underpin healthy and thriving relationships. Together, let's uncover the limitless possibilities for love, connection, and fulfillment in your relational landscape.





    Lesson 1: The Power Of Presencing

    In this transformative lesson, you will delve into the profound concept of presencing and its pivotal role in managing conflicts. By the end of this lesson, you will acquire the invaluable ability to recognize the presence or absence of presence within yourself and others during challenging situations. Moreover, you will gain practical tools to restore presence within yourself and effectively navigate conflicts when the other person is not fully present.


    Presencing serves as a crucial foundation for conflict resolution, enabling you to transcend fear-based reactions and maintain the integrity of the relationship. When you are fully present, you become attuned to the nuances of the moment, allowing for conscious choices and compassionate responses to emerge. During this lesson, you will explore strategies to reconnect with presence when you find yourself caught in the grip of unconscious patterns or triggered emotions. By developing this awareness, you will be able to prevent fear-based strategies from derailing the conversation and hindering resolution.


    Additionally, you will discover how to navigate conflicts when the other person involved is not fully present. By understanding their state and the potential underlying reasons for their lack of presence, you will gain insights into how to approach the situation with empathy and effectiveness. You will learn to adapt your communication and conflict management strategies to foster a safe and conducive environment for both parties to engage in a productive dialogue. Presencing provides the groundwork for conscious decision-making, enabling you to choose a path that promotes harmony and preserves the connection between individuals. By cultivating your presence, you will unlock new possibilities for maintaining healthy relationships even in the face of conflict.


    Prepare to embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery as you learn to harness the power of presencing. By honing this essential skill, you will transcend the limitations of fear and reactivity, allowing for greater understanding, growth, and connection in all your relationships. Get ready to embrace the art of presencing and pave the way for more meaningful and harmonious interactions.

    Lesson 2: The Power Of Attunement
    Lesson 2: The Power Of Attunement

    In this enlightening lesson, you will gain a profound understanding of attunement and its vital role in interpersonal dynamics. By the end of this lesson, you will not only possess the knowledge to recognize and appreciate the skill of attunement, but you will also comprehend its significant impact on effective communication and conflict resolution.


    Attunement is the art of deeply connecting with both yourself and the other person, allowing you to cultivate a heightened awareness and sensitivity to their experience. Through attunement, you will learn to "dial in" or "feel into" the emotions, thoughts, and needs of the other person, thereby facilitating a deeper understanding and fostering better decision-making when responding to conflicts.


    This lesson will delve into the intricacies of attunement and highlight its transformative power. By developing your attunement skills, you will unlock the gateway to curiosity, nurturing a genuine interest in the perspectives and emotions of others. This curiosity will enable you to engage in more open-minded and empathetic interactions, leading to enhanced communication and conflict resolution outcomes.


    Moreover, attunement encompasses self-attunement, which involves cultivating a deep connection with your own experience. By attuning to yourself, you can effectively interrupt fear-based strategies that often manifest unconsciously during conflict or trigger situations. Self-attunement empowers you to recognize and unplug the activated memories associated with perceived danger, allowing for more conscious and intentional responses.


    Throughout this lesson, you will explore practical techniques and exercises to strengthen your attunement skills. By honing your ability to attune to both yourself and others, you will foster a more harmonious and authentic connection. Attunement serves as a powerful tool for navigating conflicts with empathy, understanding, and emotional intelligence.


    Prepare to embark on a journey of self-discovery and interpersonal growth as you unlock the transformative potential of attunement. By mastering this invaluable skill, you will revolutionize your approach to communication, conflict resolution, and building meaningful connections. Get ready to embrace the art of attunement and experience the profound impact it can have on your relationships.

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